Matthew Henry
In these verses Solomon lays down some great truths which seem paradoxes to the unthinking part, that is, the far greatest part, of mankind.
A good name is before good ointment(so it may be read); it is preferable to it, and will be rather chosen by all that are wise.
Good ointmentis here put for all the profits of the earth (among the products of which oil was reckoned one of the most valuable), for all the delights of sense (for
ointment and perfumewhich
rejoice the heart, and it is called
the oil of gladness), nay, and for the highest titles of honour with which men are dignified, for kings are anointed.
A good name isbetter
thanall
riches(Prov 21:1), that is, a name for wisdom and goodness with those that are wise and good—
the memory of the just; this is a good that will bring a more grateful pleasure to the mind, will give a man a larger opportunity of usefulness, and will go further, and last longer, than the most
precious box of ointment; for Christ paid Mary for her ointment with a
good name, a name in the gospels (Matt 26:13), and we are sure he always pays with advantage.
The day of deathis preferable to the
birth-day; though, as to others, there was joy
when a child was born into the world, and where there is death there is lamentation, yet, as to ourselves, if we have lived so as to merit a
good name, the day of our death, which will put a period to our cares, and toils, and sorrows, and remove us to rest, and joy, and eternal satisfaction,
is better than the day of our birth, which ushered us into a world of so much sin and trouble, vanity and vexation. We were born to uncertainty, but a good man does not die at uncertainty.
The day of our birthclogged our souls with the burden of the flesh, but
the day of our deathwill set them at liberty from that burden.
It is better to go to the house of mourning, and there
weep with those that weep, than to go to the house of feasting, to a wedding, or a wake, there to
rejoice with those that do rejoice. It will do us more good, and make better impressions upon us. We may lawfully go to both, as there is occasion. Our Saviour both feasted at the wedding of his friend in Cana and wept at the grave of his friend in Bethany; and we may possibly glorify God, and do good, and get good, in the house of feasting; but, considering how apt we are to be vain and frothy, proud and secure, and indulgent of the flesh,
it is betterfor us
to go to the house of mourning, not to see the pomp of the funeral, but to share in the sorrow of it, and to learn good lessons, both from the dead, who is going thence to his long home, and from the mourners, who go about the streets.
the house of mourningare,
That is the end of all men. It
is the end of manas to this world, a final period to his state here; he shall return no more to his house. It
is the end of all men; all
have sinnedand therefore
death passes upon all. We must thus be left by our friends, as the mourners are, and thus leave, as the dead do. What is the lot of others will be ours; the cup is going round, and it will come to our turn to pledge it shortly.
The living will lay it to his heart. Will they? It were well if they would. Those that are spiritually alive
will lay it to heart, and, as for all the survivors, one would think they should; it is their own fault if they do not, for nothing is more easy and natural than by the death of others to be put in mind of our own. Some perhaps
will lay that to heart, and
consider their latter end, who would not lay a good sermon to heart.
heart is in the house of mourning; he is much conversant with mournful subjects, and this is both an evidence and a furtherance of his wisdom.
The house of mourningis the wise man’s school, where he has learned many a good lesson, and there, where he is serious, he is in his element. When he
is in the house of mourninghis
heartis there to improve the spectacles of mortality that are presented to him; nay, when he is in
the house of feasting, his
heart is in the house of mourning, by way of sympathy with those that are in sorrow.
heart is in the house of mirth; his heart is all upon it to be merry and jovial; his whole delight is in sport and gaiety, in merry stories, merry songs, and merry company, merry days and merry nights. If he be at any time in
the house of mourning, he is under a restraint; his heart at the same time
is in the house of mirth; this is his folly, and helps to make him more and more foolish.
Sorrow is better than laughter, more agreeable to our present state, where we are daily sinning and suffering ourselves, more or less, and daily seeing the sins and sufferings of others. While we are in a vale of tears, we should conform to the temper of the climate. It is also more for our advantage;
for, by the sadnessthat appears in
the countenance, the heart isoften
made better. Note,
the heart is made better, though it be unpleasing to sense.
Vexatio dat intellectum—Vexation sharpens the intellect. Periissem nisi periissem—I should have perished if I had not been made wretched. It will follow, on the contrary, that by the mirth and frolicsomeness of the countenance the heart is made worse, more vain, carnal, sensual, and secure, more in love with the world and more estranged from God and spiritual things (Job 21:12, Job 21:14), till it become utterly unconcerned in
the afflictions of Joseph, as those Amos 6:5, Amos 6:6, and
the king and Haman, Esth 3:15.
rebuke of the wisethan to have them gratified by
the song of fools, Eccl 7:5. Many that would be very well pleased to hear the information of the wise, and much more to have their commendations and consolations, yet do not care for
hearing their rebukes, that is, care not for being told of their faults, though ever so wisely; but therein they are no friends to themselves, for
reproofs of instruction are the way of life(Prov 6:23), and, though they be not so pleasant as
the song of fools, they are more wholesome.
To hear, not only with patience, but with pleasure,
the rebuke of the wise, is a sign and means of wisdom; but to be fond of
the song of foolsis a sign that the mind is vain and is the way to make it more so. And what an absurd thing is it for a man to dote so much upon such a transient pleasure as
the laughter of a foolis, which may fitly be compared to the burning
of thorns under a pot, which makes a great noise and a great blaze, for a little while, but is gone presently, scatters its ashes, and contributes scarcely any thing to the production of a boiling heat, for that requires a constant fire!
The laughter of a foolis noisy and flashy, and is not an instance of true joy.
This is also vanity; it deceives men to their destruction, for
the end of that mirth is heaviness. Our blessed Saviour has read us our doom:
Blessed are you that weep now, for you shall laugh; woe to you that laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep, Luke 6:21, Luke 6:25.